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Why Don't They JUST QUIT?: Hope for families struggling with addiction.

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Answers and solutions. . . not found in any other materials on addiction and recovery!
Hope for Families Struggling with Addiction.

Real-life solutions to help you now. Watching a loved one immersed in an intense battle with alcohol and drug abuse may be the most difficult, complex and harrowing experience you'll ever have. This book offers a message of hope to families and friends, giving practical solutions so they can help anyone struggling with addiction to begin the road to recovery.

You'll discover:
-How to effectively intervene.
-Why a person doesn't have to hit rock-bottom.
-When helping is actually hurting.
-Why quitting is not the same as recovering.
-How to deal with relapse.
-The importance of faith and hope in recovery.
-Why a parent would leave their child due to their addiction.

Updated Edition: Contains new chapters on: Heroin, Shame & Stigma, Harm Reduction, Marijuana, Synthetic Drugs, 12-Step Groups and The Church, and much more!
Answers to over 30 common, and not so common questions.

Inspiring first-hand recovery stories.
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What People Are Saying About Why Don’t They Just Quit?
“I read all of my Al-Anon books, attend meetings, and I have a wonderful church family, but this book presents some new thoughts to me. It’s wonderful and has proven to be of great solace. . . . as if you’ve been here in my home, observing.” ~Rosemary L., Anderson, Indiana

“[This book] will be valued by many, many people. A very meaningful gift of God’s grace to families who need sanity in the middle of their runaway insanity.” ~Mike Richards Jr., Director of Recovery Ministries, International Bible Society

“My association with The Salvation Army for over forty-nine years, allows me to confirm the importance of Joe’s practical approach to addiction and recovery.” ~Lt. Colonel Clarence Harvey, The Salvation Army, Kansas City, Missouri

“…stayed up late last night reading it; inspiring! This book is for people like me; with chemically addicted people in their life . . . one of the most clear/helpful guides to learn how to navigate the confusion, drama and pain associated with addiction in a family. Passionate, humble, full of wisdom . . . a must read for the addicted and those who care about them.” ~Donna Schwartz, MFT, CAC III, Valley Hope Treatment Services in Colorado

“Solid, helpful and hopeful . . . as a Pastor who deals constantly with those heartbroken by addictions and as the son of an alcoholic parent, I highly recommend Why Don’t They Just Quit? to others inside or outside a community of faith. Joe knows that his sobriety didn’t come just on his own strength, but through the power of a dynamic relationship with Christ, his “higher power” often mentioned in AA.” ~Rick Bundschuh, author, cartoonist and pastor of Kauai Christian Fellowship, Kauai, Hawaii

“Articulate, ‘real-world’ practical, thoroughly ‘user friendly’ and strongly recommended.” ~James A. Cox, Editor-in-Chief/Midwest Book Review

“I absolutely could not put the book down! It was amazing to me that someone could write something that I had lived with almost to the T. It gave me understanding from a different perspective, enlightening me to different ways of seeing the disease. It saved my sanity.” ~S. Chism, Oregon City, OR

“I know Joe and he has immense personal credibility to address the confusing, complex issue of addiction. This book is surprisingly clear, crisp and candid. Many in our congregation, community and nation need to read what Joe has to say.” ~Alan Ahlgrim, Former Lead Pastor Rocky Mountain Christian Church, Niwot, Colorado

“Just got my book. I’m previewing it and hit a, “Thank you, Lord!” moment when reading about raising the bottom. I’ve wondered about that idea for some time now, but couldn’t seem to find professionals nor support groups who I felt were smart enough to answer my questions. Bless you all for putting out these resources!” ~Robb B., Pineville, North Carolina

“Many reading this book are facing the battle of your life. Alcohol and drugs consumed my daughter’s life. I can’t put into words—the anguish of attending my daughter’s funeral. I wish I had this book long ago. Maybe Mia would still be here. I didn’t know how to help her. Why Don’t They Just Quit? is full of answers I could have used.” ~Pam M., Niwot, Colorado

“…a must read not only for families of addicts and alcoholics looking for answers, but for anyone who has been intrigued by irrational compulsions and wondered how recovery takes place. I consider Why Don’t They Just Quit? to be one of the top five recovery books for families and I anticipate it being widely used by treatment programs throughout the country.” ~Nicolas Taylor, Ph.D., National Expert on the Treatment of Methamphetamine Addiction

“…I read your book twice. I thought I knew quite a bit about alcohol addiction but in reality, I probably only knew 20% before reading your book.” ~C.H., Denver, Colorado

“Joe writes with authority and clarity . . . . Its straightforwardness and intimacy as well as its lack of pretense give it a veracity, that is genuine . . . an excellent read for family and friends as well as the recovering person.” ~James W. Russell, M.D., FACP American Society of Addiction Medicine former director of Founder’s Hall Treatment Center, Seabrook, New Jersey

“Joe explains addiction and recovery in terms we all can understand. We recommend it to all the families at our center.”
~Lee Barchan, Executive Director, Transitions Recovery, North Miami Beach, Florida

“As a recovering person myself, I found this book to be full of facts useful in sharing with visitors at our weekly meetings. I especially appreciate that Joe included the spiritual part of recovery and most importantly, the underlying message that anyone can recover—bringing hope to those seeking direction.” ~Vicki Beatty, Celebrate Recovery Leader, Covenant Chapel, Leawood, Kansas

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

Foreword
Introduction

Part 1: Why Don’t They Just Quit?

Chapter 1
A Look at My Life . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .3
Why write this book?
Chapter 2
Dying for a Cold One . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .7
Why do we all take drugs?
Chapter 3
Good Question! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 11
Why don’t they just quit?
Chapter 4
Pick Your Poison . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 15
Why do people have “drugs of choice”?
Chapter 5
Houston, We Have a Problem! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 23
How do you know when “use” has turned to “abuse”, and “abuse” to addiction?
Chapter 6
Technology Meets Dope . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .  . . . . . . . 29
How has technology changed the world of drugs?
Chapter 7
Moving On . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 33
Making peace with the past.
Chapter 8
Inside the Criminal Mind . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 37
Is he an addict with a crime problem or a criminal with an addiction problem?
Part 1 Overview: Key Points to Remember

Part 2: It’s a Family Affair
Chapter 9

None of Your Business . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .  . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 49
Should you intervene or not?
Chapter 10
Siblings: The Forgotten Ones . . . . . . . . . . . .  . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 61
How siblings get hurt.
Chapter 11
What’s Going On? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 67
Is addiction a disease or a moral failing?
Chapter 12
I Drink Alone . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 73
Why is isolation a bad sign?
Chapter 13
Raising Kids in the Twenty-first Century  . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 77
What did I do wrong?
Chapter 14
What’s Love Got to Do with It? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 81
What works, what doesn’t, and why.
Part 2 Overview: Key Points to Remember

Part 3: All About Treatment
Chapter 15

Different Strokes for Different Folks . . . . . . . .. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 91
Does treatment have to cost a lot?
Chapter 16
One Step at a Time? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 101
Are twelve-step meetings really important?
Chapter 17
Step One: Don’t Leave Home Without It! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 107
What’s the big deal about Step One?
Chapter 18
Pivotal Teaching Moments . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 111
The “rock bottom” myth.
Chapter 19
Meth Myths . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 119
Can meth addicts really recover?
Chapter 20
Payback Time . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 127
What is withdrawal like?
Chapter 21
Getting the Treatment . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 133
What do people do all day in treatment?
Chapter 22
Drugs: The Gift That Keeps on Giving . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 141
What should I know about hep-C?
Chapter 23
Least Likely to Succeed . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 147
What are alternative treatments for recovery, and do they work?
Part 3 Overview: Key Points to Remember

Part 4: Life in Recovery
Chapter 24

A Whole New World . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 157
What exactly is recovery?
Chapter 25
Whole Person Recovery: The Mind . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 161
Can the mind be healed?
Chapter 26
Whole Person Recovery: The Body . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 167
What roles do nutrition and exercise play in recovery?
Chapter 27
Whole Person Recovery: The Spirit . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 173
Do we have to talk about religion?
Chapter 28
Pill for Pill . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .. . . . . . . . . . . . . 179
Is it okay to take medications in recovery?
Chapter 29
Serotonin Rising . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 183
How should you deal with depression in recovery?
Chapter 30
Relapse: Plan on It . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 187
What to do if your loved one relapses?
Chapter 31
They’re BAAaaack! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 199
What should you do when he comes back from treatment?
Part 4 Overview: Key Points to Remember
Conclusion

Part 5: Q & A with Joe

HOW CAN I TELL?
. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 213
• How can I tell if someone is an addict/alcoholic or just a heavy user?
• How can I know if my addicted friend or loved one is telling me the truth?
• Are passing out and blacking out the same thing?
• If someone can stop using for weeks at a time, they “aren’t”
an addict—correct?


DOES IT HAVE TO BE? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 217
• Does an intervention have to be a surprise attack?
• If both parents are addicts, does that increase the child’s chances
of addiction?


WHAT IS IT? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 219
• What does the term “pink cloud” mean?
• Isn’t addiction just a willpower problem?
• Does relapse mean failure?
• What is Methadone? What is harm reduction?
• What is meant by a co-occurring disorder?


IS IT OKAY? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 225
• Is it okay for a recovering addict to smoke pot?
• Is it okay for my teen to drink at home under my supervision?
• Can I have alcohol in my home, or serve alcoholic drinks on
social occasions?
• Is it okay to tell your kids about your past use? How open should you be?


SHOULD I? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 233
• Should I search my adolescent’s room?
• Should I be concerned about medications in my own bathroom?
• Should I be concerned when he talks about suicide?


I’M WONDERING . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 237
• Does everyone have to know?
• How can I show my love without enabling?
• Is there a cure for addiction?
• Are some people beyond hope for recovery?
• Why is addiction called an “insidious” disease?
• What about babies born to addicted moms?
• How does one respond to being offered a drink after beginning
life in recovery?


HOW CAN THEY? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 245
• How can a mother or father leave their kids because of alcohol or
drug use? Don’t they love their kids?


IS IT TRUE? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 247
• Are most addicts in jail, homeless, or unemployed?
• Does using drugs and alcohol change a person’s brain chemistry?
• Is it true that the chances for relapse are greater—the younger
a person is?
• Does heavy use of alcohol and drugs create addiction?
• Is it true that the more educated a person is, the less likely they are to
become an addict?
• Is it true that the chances for addiction are greater, the earlier use starts?


CAN IT HAPPEN? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 253
• Can someone develop a dependency problem later in life?
• Can a person just cut down on their drinking?


DO YOU HAVE TO . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 255
• Do you have to believe in God to attend AA meetings?
• Do you have to stop seeing all your old friends in order to recover?

APPENDIX A: Real Stories, Real People . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 261
APPENDIX B: Self-Tests . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 279
APPENDIX C: Resources . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 287
 

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